She was watching TV on one Sunday night, biasa la lepak dengan penuh semangat kesukanan when the storyline just reminded her on how mean a woman could be once she was betrayed in love after all she had to give in her relationship. Yeah, that happens when love kills love, it cuts into so deep. So guys, beware! Hehe...dengan perlahan 2 belah tangan diregang. She is not a feminist after all but just trying to understand to what extent the kindness, gentleness, softness, compassion and affection of a woman would perish and turn her drastically into a heartless and unpredictable creature which was willingly to do anything in order to take revenge due to the double-cross made by her own boyfriend. Bile fikir balik macam tengok citer seram la pulak, padahal citer chintan chintun sadis jer.
Tak tau la pulak ape sebenarnye lesson da director nak kasik kat viewers from da story tapi pada dia la kan, it leads to several Questions:
What would you do, after all you had done for your love one, then you felt like he’s slowly outdistanced you over da time? What would you feel if the love that had been grown for years simply slipping away from your life just like grains of sand, slipping through your fingers? - no appreciation at all, being overshadowed for life by his former girlfriend, she is the one in his mind - his first priority, of course the very first thing coming trough his mind each and every single day while you, the one who is willingly be by his side is being neglected as if you never exist in his life.
Tak tau la pulak ape sebenarnye lesson da director nak kasik kat viewers from da story tapi pada dia la kan, it leads to several Questions:
What would you do, after all you had done for your love one, then you felt like he’s slowly outdistanced you over da time? What would you feel if the love that had been grown for years simply slipping away from your life just like grains of sand, slipping through your fingers? - no appreciation at all, being overshadowed for life by his former girlfriend, she is the one in his mind - his first priority, of course the very first thing coming trough his mind each and every single day while you, the one who is willingly be by his side is being neglected as if you never exist in his life.
Any violence on earth will not happen without reason even how minuscule, full of loopholes it is - the same goes in this situation. Would the unfaithful behavior of her boyfriend be the main factor which drives her to commit an aggressive behavior as she ever did for example, shot the former girl of his when he on one particular day said that he no longer feels like he wants to keep the relationship between them alive? Huh, dia mengeluh kuat. Haila…adult’s relationship: a bunch of sinful people stuck in da very complicated miscommunication.
Melamun sensorang kat depan tv. Was he considered to be morally guilty for the cold bloody murder as he could be described as an irresponsible man who just after the girl for fun, for an instant replacement, or just for a company at night? Was he guilty for not trying not even once, not even a little bit or not even at all explaining the reality of their relationship which considered as a failure for he was not trying his best to make even a single shot to love the girl and forget his past?
Melamun sensorang kat depan tv. Was he considered to be morally guilty for the cold bloody murder as he could be described as an irresponsible man who just after the girl for fun, for an instant replacement, or just for a company at night? Was he guilty for not trying not even once, not even a little bit or not even at all explaining the reality of their relationship which considered as a failure for he was not trying his best to make even a single shot to love the girl and forget his past?
Instead of doing so, he let the past clung with him and never went far. Was he guilty for never letting the relationship alive rather that let it died without a grave? Was he guilty for letting her waiting for him wasting most of her life hoping for a day when he suddenly changed and realized that the past should be a history and the life must go on? Or was she the one who has been so-called plain stupid and didn’t want to accept the reality, still hoping for something that was impossible and super unachievable? Ntahla..memang jadik orang besar banyak giga masalah. Tanpa sedar dia menggeleng kepala yang dah mula pening mintak tido.
Perlahan-lahan tangan diangkat untuk mengurut pelipis. Problem with the people in this world nowadays is that they don’t want to change and let the past simply being part of them until at one particular point they will no longer want to appreciate and show their concern for people around them. They start confusing themselves and others plus no longer have interest in discovering new life.
Perlahan-lahan tangan diangkat untuk mengurut pelipis. Problem with the people in this world nowadays is that they don’t want to change and let the past simply being part of them until at one particular point they will no longer want to appreciate and show their concern for people around them. They start confusing themselves and others plus no longer have interest in discovering new life.
Sounds pathetic but yeah it’s typical. They keep making themselves busy by chasing something which is impossible and stop thinking about the people around them that still alive and willingly to share their pains and grieves. Come on! For these people who may stumble in this situation, please think about people around you. Appreciating them is the very best thing that you could do in this world before you lose them one day. In life, there’s no turning back.
Life must go on.
And for those who felt like they are kind of victims in this condition, please don’t give up. Give a lot of chances for this type of people to change and try to understand the phase now they have gone through. If there is so obvious that he no longer wants to commit in the relationship, I supposed you get the hint that he is never going to be your Mr. Right .If he has closed the door for you, then it’s the suitable time to make a move, “leave the key back to his door” and walk away from his life to start a brand new life. Go and search for the real man that full of commitment. Don’t forget that may be the latter is a way better than the former. Thing like this always happens, never a fairytale.
Warning sign. Now mata dah berat tahap kene hempap batu, tak boleh tahan punyer. To sum up, there is a rationale when no premarital relationship is allowed in Islam. Some may think that Islam is a religion with to much do’s and don’ts. Teringat time kecik dulu, mama cakap there is always the reasons why something should be done and others shouldn’t. Mula2 dengar mama cakap terus buat gaya tak puas hati sebab sumer benda jahat yang dia buat asyik tak been approved je dengan mama tapi bile dah besar, orang kata dah cerdik skit baru she started to realize that all the laws and orders so do the prohibitions made by the Lord Above are for and only for the goodness’ sake of the mankind.
And for those who felt like they are kind of victims in this condition, please don’t give up. Give a lot of chances for this type of people to change and try to understand the phase now they have gone through. If there is so obvious that he no longer wants to commit in the relationship, I supposed you get the hint that he is never going to be your Mr. Right .If he has closed the door for you, then it’s the suitable time to make a move, “leave the key back to his door” and walk away from his life to start a brand new life. Go and search for the real man that full of commitment. Don’t forget that may be the latter is a way better than the former. Thing like this always happens, never a fairytale.
Warning sign. Now mata dah berat tahap kene hempap batu, tak boleh tahan punyer. To sum up, there is a rationale when no premarital relationship is allowed in Islam. Some may think that Islam is a religion with to much do’s and don’ts. Teringat time kecik dulu, mama cakap there is always the reasons why something should be done and others shouldn’t. Mula2 dengar mama cakap terus buat gaya tak puas hati sebab sumer benda jahat yang dia buat asyik tak been approved je dengan mama tapi bile dah besar, orang kata dah cerdik skit baru she started to realize that all the laws and orders so do the prohibitions made by the Lord Above are for and only for the goodness’ sake of the mankind.
Lambat pick up, tertatih belajar mencarik rahmah di balik perintah, hikmah dan kasih sayang di balik amaran. Sooner or later, by hook or by crook each one of us will be given chances to understand what lies beneath His rules. Sikit2 kalau pun tak semua. Dia nak belajar percaya dan selalu yakin that there are always the paramount explanations for each rule He wants us to abide by, we just don’t know them all yet as we are not wise enough to discover them pieces by pieces - it may be difficult to arrange each piece of the jigsaw puzzle in its place with the limited time to live the world.
Take this as example. Islam only approves the kind of relationship between opposite genders which legally unites by a marriage. In short, get married if you want an intimate relationship with the opposite sex, there is no such a thing like try and error as what we have been doing in our daily life, may be it is practical in any other field but when we talk about man-woman thingy, we do talk about heart, feelings, chemistry and others which is exactly not only involving two people but the rest of the family. Furthermore if the relationship is failed both will be very much hurt rather than disappointed. It’s about 2 people which are sharing their lives for good which is not a simple matter.
Concern about the possibility of a divorce or an annulment of marriage due to the existence of the third party, Islam has stated since the very beginning “no” to premarital relationship. If she is not ready for a marriage then she supposed not to get involved with a guy. Better to stay away from any sign of communication with only exception in important business such as in class for learning and tutorial sessions, in beneficial discussions and etc but with proper guidelines to obey. Dia menghela nafas. Islam is beautiful. It indeed takes care of the pride and the dignity of women-meaning one good decent lady will not easily go out from her house and simply hanging out with men either in the exclusive five stars outlet or at the quiet alley, right?
Tangan menutup rapat pintu bilik, time ni la rase cam katil tu benda paling menarik on earth. Terus berfikir apsal islam tak kasik premarital relationship. If he has never ever fallen in love with his former girlfriend in the first place, may be the latter one would not be so - called “piss off” that she without any doubt dared to commit such a brutal
murder and at the same time confessed to her boyfriend about the crime that she was deep into even she evidently aware that the risk to get caught red-handed as this was a clear cut crime and breaking the penal code( plus the man in the movie is a police officer!).
Looking at the risk that she might find guilty by the juries in the court of justice which leads to death penalty or life-sentence (murder in some countries is 25 years to lifetime imprisonment and for manslaughter could be 15 to 25 years in jail), any normal person might assume that she is either plain stupid or completely mad at that time which had made her not only failed to think accordingly and killed the girl but also dared to admit to her boyfriend about the crime. Supposed it meant a lot to her as she exactly felt relief to beat her competitor -which what certainly happens when anger and jealousy take control.
What would happen if there is no third party in this case? A high possibility that she would accept the split calmly for she believed that there was no cut in from any party. Or may be there is no separation at all. No separation in premarital coupling if there is no premarital relationship in the first place because every single and each person does aware the fact that relationship between man and woman is one big serious matter to deal with that only well-prepared gentlemen and ladies will get involved in. And if only these ready to get married-people which well-recognized about their responsibilities get involved in marriage, I supposed that we would find a perfect solution to prevent divorce especially among the young couples which had increased currently around the world.
Final thought before she closed her eyes that nite. When Islam prohibits premarital relationship so do other things, it does not want to burden the Muslims but only to maintain the harmony in the particular communities. It is indeed important to seek for explanations rather than simply jump into groundless prejudices. Without any double-crossed or backstabbing or even jealousy nor greed, nobody gets hurt therefore the possibility for the marriage to be proceeded till the death tears them apart is high. One final question: does premarital relationship promoted by certain parties in Malaysia or around the world suitable and could be simply adapted into our culture or to those who claim to have beautiful minds?
Take this as example. Islam only approves the kind of relationship between opposite genders which legally unites by a marriage. In short, get married if you want an intimate relationship with the opposite sex, there is no such a thing like try and error as what we have been doing in our daily life, may be it is practical in any other field but when we talk about man-woman thingy, we do talk about heart, feelings, chemistry and others which is exactly not only involving two people but the rest of the family. Furthermore if the relationship is failed both will be very much hurt rather than disappointed. It’s about 2 people which are sharing their lives for good which is not a simple matter.
Concern about the possibility of a divorce or an annulment of marriage due to the existence of the third party, Islam has stated since the very beginning “no” to premarital relationship. If she is not ready for a marriage then she supposed not to get involved with a guy. Better to stay away from any sign of communication with only exception in important business such as in class for learning and tutorial sessions, in beneficial discussions and etc but with proper guidelines to obey. Dia menghela nafas. Islam is beautiful. It indeed takes care of the pride and the dignity of women-meaning one good decent lady will not easily go out from her house and simply hanging out with men either in the exclusive five stars outlet or at the quiet alley, right?
Tangan menutup rapat pintu bilik, time ni la rase cam katil tu benda paling menarik on earth. Terus berfikir apsal islam tak kasik premarital relationship. If he has never ever fallen in love with his former girlfriend in the first place, may be the latter one would not be so - called “piss off” that she without any doubt dared to commit such a brutal
murder and at the same time confessed to her boyfriend about the crime that she was deep into even she evidently aware that the risk to get caught red-handed as this was a clear cut crime and breaking the penal code( plus the man in the movie is a police officer!).
Looking at the risk that she might find guilty by the juries in the court of justice which leads to death penalty or life-sentence (murder in some countries is 25 years to lifetime imprisonment and for manslaughter could be 15 to 25 years in jail), any normal person might assume that she is either plain stupid or completely mad at that time which had made her not only failed to think accordingly and killed the girl but also dared to admit to her boyfriend about the crime. Supposed it meant a lot to her as she exactly felt relief to beat her competitor -which what certainly happens when anger and jealousy take control.
What would happen if there is no third party in this case? A high possibility that she would accept the split calmly for she believed that there was no cut in from any party. Or may be there is no separation at all. No separation in premarital coupling if there is no premarital relationship in the first place because every single and each person does aware the fact that relationship between man and woman is one big serious matter to deal with that only well-prepared gentlemen and ladies will get involved in. And if only these ready to get married-people which well-recognized about their responsibilities get involved in marriage, I supposed that we would find a perfect solution to prevent divorce especially among the young couples which had increased currently around the world.
Final thought before she closed her eyes that nite. When Islam prohibits premarital relationship so do other things, it does not want to burden the Muslims but only to maintain the harmony in the particular communities. It is indeed important to seek for explanations rather than simply jump into groundless prejudices. Without any double-crossed or backstabbing or even jealousy nor greed, nobody gets hurt therefore the possibility for the marriage to be proceeded till the death tears them apart is high. One final question: does premarital relationship promoted by certain parties in Malaysia or around the world suitable and could be simply adapted into our culture or to those who claim to have beautiful minds?
malas dah nak fikir, she just switched off da light and recited da doa tido...
P/s: a friend told me if you got series of girlfriends or boyfriends in the past, things will get tough and tougher along your marital life coz you would tend to compare between your newly wedded spouse and those ur x’s. “Human nature. Tak terfikir la skarang tapi nanti boleh je jadik. And common la bile dah kawin nanti yang buruk tu nampak macam lebih overshadowed dari kebaikan kalo dah hilang rase syukur. Tetiba je jadik ala2 assistant malaikat atid tolong carik kesalahan spouse kononnya.” Sambung kawan.
P/s: a friend told me if you got series of girlfriends or boyfriends in the past, things will get tough and tougher along your marital life coz you would tend to compare between your newly wedded spouse and those ur x’s. “Human nature. Tak terfikir la skarang tapi nanti boleh je jadik. And common la bile dah kawin nanti yang buruk tu nampak macam lebih overshadowed dari kebaikan kalo dah hilang rase syukur. Tetiba je jadik ala2 assistant malaikat atid tolong carik kesalahan spouse kononnya.” Sambung kawan.
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