Tuesday, August 21, 2007

nOt Dat tYPe Of LaDy...

...don't try to play me
...for me to call you baby
So you got a Bentley,
got a lotta money
Every girl's your honey excuse me
I'm not that type of lady
...Boy you need to know (you need to know)
That I'm not impressed (that I'm not impressed)
By your fancy talk (by your fancy talk)
or that money you got

Amirah Hanani senyum sensorang sambil habiskan chicken sandwich. Sekejap pandangan dihala ke depan kat kolam ikan tilapia kesayangan atuk, sekejap pulak tertumpu kat screen laptop. Mulut bergerak-gerak terkumat-kamit menyanyikan lagu from camelia ft urban exchange. Headphone dari tadi tak de sign nak ditanggal dari telinga. Ni la saat membahagiakan. Tak yah bace buku, tak yah pi class: makan, tengok tv, tido and memekak tak habis. The whole process is called: menggemukkan diri sendiri.
Back to the song. Suka arr lagu ni, exception da bar part of course. (Caution when you are reading da full version of da lyrics: Jangan pi gatal2 unwind kat club, bar, disco, da zzouk or wutever yang sama lagha denganya.) Just love the lyrics. Witty, confident habis, budget bagus and the best part da gal in the lyrics is soooooo not cheap and desperately friendly. Cayalah.

Mmm, teringat plak time secondary school. Bile tu huh, rase cam dah berabad lama. Zaman parameswara nampak kancil tendang masuk sungai anjing buruan yang escorted dia kut. Tapi believe it or not, time sekolah tu la period yang penting pada dia besides intrauterine period and early childhood stage. Wakakarakatua, medical syllabus merentas kehidupan seharian dengan jayanya, hu.

Why? Because time tu la dia mula blajar usaha escalator kejayaaan macam mane the best way to be untouchable and respectable. Dia untouchable because of 2 things, first: sebab dia once in the blue moon je mencemar duli cakap dengan budak laki yang after the end of form 5 boley dikira tak yah gune calculator brapa minutes and berapa orang je yang diperkenan duli mengadap dia, itu pun sebab emergency habis and the second reason is she never hooked up with any guy. Tak kisah la luar or dalam that sekolah. Clean record. Chop,macam tipu je. Ade la gak sesekali usha2 anak teruna orang but she clearly drew the line. Jangan sampai kene cap gedik.

Bile kengkawan tanya apsal, dia cume angkat kening dengan bahu and simply said, “I’m working hard seeking for their respect, not looking forward to be part of their collection.” Feminist habis la time tu. Sudahnye kengkawan dia buat conclusion baik punye, “ko ni sebenarnye ader hormonal imbalance, sebab tu la tak pernah minat memane laki kat sekolah ni.” Muka time cakap pun serious je, macam doctor tengah diagnose patient.

Time tu dia takat senyum and geleng kepala je la. Nak buat camne. Dedulu dia ade gak rase weird apsal kengkawan dia ni senang jek nak beramah tamah dengan lelaki tapi dia bab2 interpersonal communication dengan opposite sex ni awal2 lagi dah failed. Tak tau la nak cakap ape and nak buat muka macam mane. Then bila fikir balik may be it is the way Allah wants to protect her from ma’siat and the lagha things. Bagus gak cam tu, shielding effect free tak payah sesusah pi training.

“Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).” Al Isra’ 17:32

Dia bukanlah baik mane pun, tapi dia rase gal should be valued. Bukan dengan gushy blushy bagi bunga, jenjalan kat taman, belanja makan, dah tu bile jumpe lain, tinggal. Hargai la sangat. The value here is respect. Gals should be respected, baru la mende2 luar alam berkurang.Ramah mesra alam sangat dengan laki, nanti tak pepasal kene ambik kesempatan.
Tapi if tak cakap sangat dengan boys then tetiba couple, lagi haru jadinya. Rase macam ader double standard peringkat ketujuh. Apsal dengan laki tu boleh jual mahal tapi dengan laki nun murah bagai.
Padahal kalo nak dikira sama je level: laki ajnabi a.k.a bukan mahram+ tak de ikatan yang halal tapi layan. Sudahnye karang same je endingnya: no respect, according to her understanding yang tak seberapa ni la. So dengan conclusion yang dia rase macam bernas semacam tu la dia distant herself daripada bermain-main dengan chenta, jiwa, raga, bakul ntah paper kebendenye tu. Play safe, pull stop.

Dan sebab tu jugak la dia kekadang rase jauh hati bila ade sesetengah budak perempuan yang cakap, “aku prefer lagi boys, they made good friends. Tak de nye nak cakap pasal girly stuff, frills and fluffs, pinky stuff or wut not. Susahla nak borak dengan kengkawan perempuan, mane ader yang nak cakap pasal Ryan Guettler, Colin Mackay , Tony hawk or even Tim Duncan.”
Dengan bebudak camni mesti dia tak berapa nak baik. Ntahla, may be sebab rase macam langsung tak being appreciated by her own gender. Ingat balik ape mama cakap, “time tengah single muda remaja belia macam ni la nak berkawan rapat bagai, nak kene buat banyak activities sesama. Nanti time dah kawin, tak dapat nyer lagi nak main luang2 mase dengan all of ur girlfriends. Bile dah kawin, nak kene ikut husband lagi, jaga anak lagi. Dah tak serapat dulu dengan kengkawan perempuan. There’s sumthing that u're gonna miss.”

Dan kata dia pulak kat Nana, “if those guys ade brotherly love, apsal lak da gals can’t have the sisterly love. Come on la, apsal nak criticize or distant diri from our own gender bersungguh bagai. Gals should stick together. Tak kisah la come hell or high water, I meant for good la. Let say yang sum gals suke frills and fluff, pinky stuff. So terima je la seadanya keadaan diorang. If u wanna go for BMX freestyle in da park and vert, in-line skating vert and park, basket, skateboarding ke, sports climbing, motor x hape ke, just do it but tak yah nak allergic plak to one another.”
“ tapi kengkadang aku rase certain perempuan tu terlebih la dengan girlish stuff diorang. Ade yang saje nak amik hati laki via da cheapest way,” Nana tried nak bagi opinion. “ko ni, dah diorang perempuan. Kira normallah if they act as the way they are created. Yang cheap tu bukan girlish, tapi gedik. However it is not one concrete reason to stay away from them and budget macam bagus sebab tak gedik. It is our responsibility to get them back on the right track,” jawabnya senafas.

“u have to know the rules then u can only guess the outcome. It means ko kene tau camne nak jadik perempuan yang dihormati, all the criteria barula ko boleh budget either u deserve to be respected or not, however those criteria are not coming from the guys but according to wutever stated in the holy Koran and the traditions of prophet Muhammad pbuh yang suruh jaga pergaulan antara laki dan perempuan” dia menyambung lepas sipping guava juice before her.
Sipping la sangat, padahal dah teguk sampai ¾ gelas. Dan tak sangka, lepas beberapa tahun hijriah ni bile jumpe, kengkawan still tanye benda yang sama and her answer still da same, cume part conclusion jek yang diorang alter sesedap rase. Her answer still, “women are to be valued and one of the ways to look valuable not vulnerable is to take care of korang punyer pergaulan” then the conclusion from her friends is, “kebal ek ko ni...”

“ya Allah, jadikanlah kami sesuci Maryam, setabah Asiah, dermawan seperti Khadijah, sepenyayang Fatimah dan sebijak Aishah.”

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